Use the questions below as a guide for your book club. We would love to to see your comments below.
1. Finding Grace is filled with stories from Donna's personal journey. Which of those stories was most poignant to you? How did it make you feel? How do you identify with it?
2. Donna relates that it wasn't until she was in college and breaking up with The Boyfriend that she really comprehended grace in her life. Can you identify your first comprehension of grace? Do you know what it is?
3. Mrs. Elrick told Donna that she could "hear the language of words" but it wasn't until many years later that Donna understood what that meant. Do you feel that you've fully grasped how you've been gifted? Are you living out that gift or still journeying toward it?
4. Gertrude Stein asked on her deathbed, "What is the answer? In that case, what is the question?" Donna said the most important questions she was asking at the time was, "How much does the job pay and how many weeks vacation?" Are you asking your life the really important questions? What is your life trying to tell you and how are you answering?
5. Donna kept the molestation from her childhood a secret until she was an adult. How can children be taught to share these experiences? Why do you think some adult victims are unable to share?
6. Did this book challenge you—how will you respond? Did it inspire you—which part and what will you do? Did it make you laugh or cry—why? Which story was most memorable?
7. Donna and her husband describe their path to parenthood as their greatest pain but also their greatest joy. How does pain and disappointment shape us? What would it be like if we got everything we wanted when we wanted it?
8. Was there any story or event in the book that has caused you to reconsider a situation from your own life in a new light? What does that mean for you?
9. What is the wisdom of grace?